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Hey There! My name is Raffinee, but most people call me Raff. My wife, Micaela and I are Bay Area locals and mom to three toddlers born 7.5 months apart. Want to know more? Just ask!

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  • In college, I pretended to need help with my Biology homework so I had another excuse to talk to Micaela. I had SUCH a crush on her but absolutely zero game! I convinced her I really needed help understanding the Kreb Cycle so she would stick around for a few extra minutes🤦🏻‍♀️ Okay maybe I should have picked something a little less nerdy, but I mean it WORKED! 🤣 Tell me I’m not the only one who has pulled this card to get their crush to talk to them!?
  • 🌈 ⁣I always wonder how many people outwardly accept me as a lesbian but deep down inside feel like I’m going to Hell. I wonder what goes on inside their hearts when they like me as a person, but believe I’m doomed for eternity. Do they pray for me? Do they fear for my soul? Or do they start asking questions within themselves? Questions like, how can our religion turn people like Raff and Micaela, away? Why does our church not accept their love? Why should my love be honored, but not theirs?⠀ ⠀ Because it’s thoughts like these that have the power to start a revolution. It’s thoughts like these that create change. It’s thoughts like these that create feelings that lead to action. So be curious. ASK the questions. Lead with YOUR heart and don’t let fear win over love. Love is love is love and it will ALWAYS find a way ♥️🧡💛💚💜💙
  • At what age do kids stop thinking cleaning is fun!? Because I’m totally cool if this lasts for another 15 years!! #ad Our kids are at that age where they want to help with EVERYTHING, with @eclothusa its an easy YES! E-Cloth removes 99% of bacteria and dirt with just WATER 💦 Yep! No chemicals needed. Just water! The millions of micro fiber loops in the cloth pick up all the bacteria and since the cloths are good up to 300 uses you can just pop them in the laundry 🧺 when your done. And for those wondering, the handle twists down for storage purposes, but I mean it’s kinda perfect for the little helpers too right!? 🤷🏻‍♀️ Use code: RAFF15 to grab 15% off! Check out my stories for more details.
  • ⁣🌈Haven’t done one of these about our family yet, so here are some things you may or may not know about our family of five!⠀ ⠀ ❤Micaela and I both conceived our children through IUI (intrauterine insemination). It took Micaela 4 rounds and myself 5 rounds. My last round was medicated!⠀ ⠀ 🧡Micaela carried our oldest, Mateo, and I carried our twins Luca and Lola. I got pregnant soon after Mateo was born and our twins were born at 34 weeks. So our kids are a mere 7.5 months apart!⠀ ⠀ 💛We used the same sperm donor for all of our children. It’s a special bond that the three share and it’s really beautiful to see shared traits between the three of them. ⠀ ⠀ 💚Mateo will always be a year above the twins in school. The twins are currently in the same classroom but we are going to separate them next month (!)⠀ ⠀ 💙We are vegans (or kids too!)! We don’t eat meat, cheese, or eggs. For health and environmental reasons, Micaela and I decided to go Vegan close to 6 years ago. It definitely took some time to adjust to this way of eating (and my pregnancy wasn’t fully vegan) but it has changed our lives!⠀ ⠀ 💜We have always dreamed of traveling the world with our children and hope to travel to 18 different countries by the time they are 18! We also speak Spanish and English to them at home and would love to send them to a Spanish immersion school.⠀ ⠀ 🤍Micaela is a surgeon and I’m a Nurse but we didn’t meet at the hospital and we haven’t made out in a supply room... yet😉⠀ ⠀ Tell me about YOUR family!
  • Oh ya! We have to SHIP the sperm!!🤦🏻‍♀️ For some reason, coordinating the delivery of our sperm to our fertility clinic seemed so complicated at first. I thought we had to coordinate the sperm delivery with our cycles each month and it all just seemed like WAY too much to organize🥴 We quickly realized that we could ship more than one vial at a time and that our fertility clinic would hold on to the vials for us while we were trying! This made things SO much easier (and we also saved on shipping 🚚this way!) We also learned that once the sperm leaves the, bank it can’t go back🙅🏻‍♀️ So if you ship 4 vials but get pregnant on your first attempt (🥳) three vials may be wasted depending on your fertility clinics policy🌈 What’s one thing that surprised you about the fertility process!?
  • ❤️🧡💛 Remember that.💚💙💜
  • ⁣#ad @usbank asked me to share a story about our family's goals. When we first found out I was pregnant with twins, SO MANY thoughts flooded my mind- but the biggest, and scariest was HOW ARE WE GOING TO AFFORD THIS?! You know how we did it? We sat down and created a budget that helped us survive as a family of five, with one working parent, living in the second most expensive city in the US! ⠀ ⠀ First we listed out all our expenses are ranked them: things we HAVE to pay (rent), things we have to let go of (gym membership) and things we have to pay, but could potentially be paying less (groceries). It was really hard. We had to let go of many things we loved, like staycations, fancy workout classes, and dinner dates out, but we made it work and we stuck to our budget. We were also fairly busy with three newborns at once so we didn’t really have time for those things anyway😜 ⠀ ⠀ At the end of every month, I would go through and grade our efforts to see where we could improve and make adjustments if needed. I would say it took us four months to get it right, but after that it just became habit.⠀ ⠀ Setting up a budget for our household was hands down the key to our financial survival our first year as moms! Anyone else out there budget?! Any special tips or tricks you have? Share below and don’t forget to check out my stories and learn how @usbank could help you achieve your financial goals! #usbank
  • ⁣Ever receive comments like this? Me too. They hurt. Some sting more than others. Some we quickly dismiss, while others really hurt my heart💔 But this is why visibility matters. This is why it’s important to show up as we are. As you are. ⠀ ⠀ My guess is that many people making these comments haven’t met many people in the 🌈LGBTQ+ community. They haven’t met a real LGBTQ+ individual. With a real story. With a real heart. And see them for what they are- a human just like them. A person who wakes up in the morning and gets dressed- just like them. A person with good days and bad days- just like them. A person trying to make the best of this one life we are given- JUST.LIKE.THEM. ⠀ ⠀ So here’s to letting our differences make us stand out, but never divide us. Here’s to making our individuality celebrated, and never scorned. Love is love and until this is normalized, until WE are normalized, we aren’t going anywhere❤🧡💛💚💙💜 #visibilitymatters
  • Epcot’s cool, but have you seen my wife?!😘 #tippytoes

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  • In college, I pretended to need help with my Biology homework so I had another excuse to talk to Micaela. I had SUCH a crush on her but absolutely zero game! I convinced her I really needed help understanding the Kreb Cycle so she would stick around for a few extra minutes🤦🏻‍♀️ Okay maybe I should have picked something a little less nerdy, but I mean it WORKED! 🤣 Tell me I’m not the only one who has pulled this card to get their crush to talk to them!?
  • 🌈 ⁣I always wonder how many people outwardly accept me as a lesbian but deep down inside feel like I’m going to Hell. I wonder what goes on inside their hearts when they like me as a person, but believe I’m doomed for eternity. Do they pray for me? Do they fear for my soul? Or do they start asking questions within themselves? Questions like, how can our religion turn people like Raff and Micaela, away? Why does our church not accept their love? Why should my love be honored, but not theirs?⠀ ⠀ Because it’s thoughts like these that have the power to start a revolution. It’s thoughts like these that create change. It’s thoughts like these that create feelings that lead to action. So be curious. ASK the questions. Lead with YOUR heart and don’t let fear win over love. Love is love is love and it will ALWAYS find a way ♥️🧡💛💚💜💙
  • At what age do kids stop thinking cleaning is fun!? Because I’m totally cool if this lasts for another 15 years!! #ad Our kids are at that age where they want to help with EVERYTHING, with @eclothusa its an easy YES! E-Cloth removes 99% of bacteria and dirt with just WATER 💦 Yep! No chemicals needed. Just water! The millions of micro fiber loops in the cloth pick up all the bacteria and since the cloths are good up to 300 uses you can just pop them in the laundry 🧺 when your done. And for those wondering, the handle twists down for storage purposes, but I mean it’s kinda perfect for the little helpers too right!? 🤷🏻‍♀️ Use code: RAFF15 to grab 15% off! Check out my stories for more details.
  • ⁣🌈Haven’t done one of these about our family yet, so here are some things you may or may not know about our family of five!⠀ ⠀ ❤Micaela and I both conceived our children through IUI (intrauterine insemination). It took Micaela 4 rounds and myself 5 rounds. My last round was medicated!⠀ ⠀ 🧡Micaela carried our oldest, Mateo, and I carried our twins Luca and Lola. I got pregnant soon after Mateo was born and our twins were born at 34 weeks. So our kids are a mere 7.5 months apart!⠀ ⠀ 💛We used the same sperm donor for all of our children. It’s a special bond that the three share and it’s really beautiful to see shared traits between the three of them. ⠀ ⠀ 💚Mateo will always be a year above the twins in school. The twins are currently in the same classroom but we are going to separate them next month (!)⠀ ⠀ 💙We are vegans (or kids too!)! We don’t eat meat, cheese, or eggs. For health and environmental reasons, Micaela and I decided to go Vegan close to 6 years ago. It definitely took some time to adjust to this way of eating (and my pregnancy wasn’t fully vegan) but it has changed our lives!⠀ ⠀ 💜We have always dreamed of traveling the world with our children and hope to travel to 18 different countries by the time they are 18! We also speak Spanish and English to them at home and would love to send them to a Spanish immersion school.⠀ ⠀ 🤍Micaela is a surgeon and I’m a Nurse but we didn’t meet at the hospital and we haven’t made out in a supply room... yet😉⠀ ⠀ Tell me about YOUR family!
  • Oh ya! We have to SHIP the sperm!!🤦🏻‍♀️ For some reason, coordinating the delivery of our sperm to our fertility clinic seemed so complicated at first. I thought we had to coordinate the sperm delivery with our cycles each month and it all just seemed like WAY too much to organize🥴 We quickly realized that we could ship more than one vial at a time and that our fertility clinic would hold on to the vials for us while we were trying! This made things SO much easier (and we also saved on shipping 🚚this way!) We also learned that once the sperm leaves the, bank it can’t go back🙅🏻‍♀️ So if you ship 4 vials but get pregnant on your first attempt (🥳) three vials may be wasted depending on your fertility clinics policy🌈 What’s one thing that surprised you about the fertility process!?
  • ❤️🧡💛 Remember that.💚💙💜
  • ⁣#ad @usbank asked me to share a story about our family's goals. When we first found out I was pregnant with twins, SO MANY thoughts flooded my mind- but the biggest, and scariest was HOW ARE WE GOING TO AFFORD THIS?! You know how we did it? We sat down and created a budget that helped us survive as a family of five, with one working parent, living in the second most expensive city in the US! ⠀ ⠀ First we listed out all our expenses are ranked them: things we HAVE to pay (rent), things we have to let go of (gym membership) and things we have to pay, but could potentially be paying less (groceries). It was really hard. We had to let go of many things we loved, like staycations, fancy workout classes, and dinner dates out, but we made it work and we stuck to our budget. We were also fairly busy with three newborns at once so we didn’t really have time for those things anyway😜 ⠀ ⠀ At the end of every month, I would go through and grade our efforts to see where we could improve and make adjustments if needed. I would say it took us four months to get it right, but after that it just became habit.⠀ ⠀ Setting up a budget for our household was hands down the key to our financial survival our first year as moms! Anyone else out there budget?! Any special tips or tricks you have? Share below and don’t forget to check out my stories and learn how @usbank could help you achieve your financial goals! #usbank
  • ⁣Ever receive comments like this? Me too. They hurt. Some sting more than others. Some we quickly dismiss, while others really hurt my heart💔 But this is why visibility matters. This is why it’s important to show up as we are. As you are. ⠀ ⠀ My guess is that many people making these comments haven’t met many people in the 🌈LGBTQ+ community. They haven’t met a real LGBTQ+ individual. With a real story. With a real heart. And see them for what they are- a human just like them. A person who wakes up in the morning and gets dressed- just like them. A person with good days and bad days- just like them. A person trying to make the best of this one life we are given- JUST.LIKE.THEM. ⠀ ⠀ So here’s to letting our differences make us stand out, but never divide us. Here’s to making our individuality celebrated, and never scorned. Love is love and until this is normalized, until WE are normalized, we aren’t going anywhere❤🧡💛💚💙💜 #visibilitymatters

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